So you're thinking about your first dance. You both know basically how to dance, well how to sway back and forth. But maybe you fear that it'll get boring for 4 minutes doing the ole back and forth sway. So you're thinking of taking dance lessons.
My husband (fiancé at the time) and I decided last minute to take dance lessons. AKA I decided to take dance lessons and realized last minute that I wanted to do it. Our wedding song (I Choose You by Sara Bareilles) is not exactly a slow song. It has a beat that is difficult to dance to. So off to the dance studio we went.
The instructor was nice, she was young and adorable. We decided to learn a choreographed dance for our song. So she taught us some basic dance steps, which I thought I'd be amazing at. WRONG. Of course, my husband was really great at it and I kept stumbling over my feet. Or forgetting what to do. Or counting to 10 when the counts were supposed to go to 6. Whoops.
Although I was embarrassed to not be great at something, I was determined to practice and become really good at it. I'm also super competitive. Upon our second dance class I got better, still not amazing (or good), but hey, practice helps. I would ask my husband to go over the steps with me at home. I really wanted to get better and rock it!
Well we were a few days away from our third dance lesson (and only a month away from the wedding) and the studio called us saying our instructor was "sick until further notice" (um... Ok?) and we could start over with someone else. Who could take us only at like 11 at night. Wanting to dance really beautifully for our first dance, I considered it. But the thought of starting a new routine just weeks before our wedding just added to our stress. We decided not to continue and decided just to wing it at the wedding. I am a bit of a "planner" (see: control freak), but my stress level for the wedding was already at a high and I didn't want to add to it. So we wung it. (Is "wung" a word??)
In the end I'm glad we did our own thing. I thought swaying back and forth would be awkward and boring for 4 minutes. But I realized, who the hell cares? If people are bored, oh well! Too bad for them. I looked into my husband's eyes and we smiled, laughed, joked, hugged, kissed, and just enjoyed dancing together. It was very romantic and beautiful for us, and that's all that mattered. Instead of counting steps I was having fun and living in the moment.
Hey, if you have plenty of time to learn a dance then that's great! I'm not saying to avoid it at all costs. It just didn't work for us, and if you find that it doesn't work for you that's OK too. If you can practice it so much that you don't have to think about it, then totally go for it. But it's not necessary. Just have fun and enjoy the moment. It's ok to be silly, it's ok for people to be bored. Just have the best time and enjoy your first dance as husband and wife 😍